by Edie Melson @EdieMelson

Even today—with as many blogs on the Internet as there are—blogging is still a valuable part of building and maintaining an online community. But it’s rare for a blog to take hold and grow—if it’s not a place where comments proliferate. Almost no one likes to be lectured, and that’s what a blog can feel with it the conversation is only one-sided.

I’ll go one step further and add this comparison. Your blog is your Internet home. And because it’s your home, you are responsible for being a good host and making people feel welcome.

Facilitating conversation is just one of the duties of a good host, but it’s the one I want to concentrate on today as I share tips for getting more comments on your blog.

1. Give your readers someone to relate to. This means making sure they know who wrote the blog post. Ideally the blog post should have a byline—like my name at the top of this post. But at the least, end with your name. (A byline also helps with your name recognition on search engines, but that’s a post for another time.) It’s very hard to join a conversation when you don’t know who you’re talking to.
2. Keep the post focused and don’t wander too far away from the topic.If we try to cover too much area, people won’t be comfortable commenting.
3. Make sure the post isn’t too long.If we take up too much of your audience’s time, they won’t be able to stay and chat.
4. Watch the blog formatting.Even with interesting posts, people will still do some skimming. If we have headers, bullet points and/or lists they can still join the conversation.
5. Try to end the post with an open-ended question. People don’t always know what’s appropriate to share. By asking a question, we give them the direction they need to chime in. Remember, as a host, it’s our job not to just facilitate the conversation, but we’re responsible for starting it.
6. Share your own personal experience.If we’re asking someone else to share, we need to make sure our blogs are a safe place for that. Going first rarely feels safe. So I always try to make sure I share my own experience before asking my readers to share theirs.
7. Ask readers to share an experience that relates to the post.Sometimes a blog post won’t lend itself to a question. In those instances we can encourage our audience to share their experience.
8. Ask readers to add to a list of suggestions or tips that have been shared.I do that a lot on here. (And I’ll do it at the end of this post.) Again, if a question isn’t appropriate or feel right, ask them to contribute to the topic already introduced.
9. Avoid using the pronoun you.This is especially true if the post is pointing out something negative. Using the word you carries a finger-pointing connotation that we want to avoid. For example, in point number 1 above, I would never say, “you must make sure the answer to the question isn’t just yes or no.” Instead, I phrased it, “We must make sure the answer to the question isn’t just yes or no.”
10. Don’t ignore your guests.If people are kind enough to comment, you need to return the favor and continue the conversation. There are exceptions, if you have more than 20 comments, or if they are very similar, it’s find to answer a couple of people at a time.
11. 11. Remind your guests to leave a comment below. Don’t apologize by saying, “if you feel comfortable” or “if you want.” Just tell them what you’d like them to do. Sometimes that’s just what someone need to be able to work up the courage to join in.

Now it’s your turn. What prompts you to leave a comment on a blog? What has worked for you when you’re trying to get readers to join the conversation? Be sure to leave your thoughts in the comments section below.

Edie Melson—author, blogger, speaker—has written numerous books, including her most recent fiction – Alone, and nonfiction – While My Child is Away. She’s also the military family blogger at Guideposts.org. Her popular blog, The Write Conversation, reaches thousands each month and has just been named as one of the 2017 Writer’s Digest Top 101 Websites for Writers. She’s the director of the Blue Ridge Mountains Christian Writers Conference and the Vice President of the Advanced Writers and Speakers Association, as well as the Social Media Director for Southern Writers Magazine.