by Maggie Wallem Rowe
Some years back, I discovered a keyboard shortcut that has saved my sanity countless times: CTRL+ Z.
Do you know about this little sanity saver?
There you are, merrily typing away and just about to finish your lengthy email message or Word doc when whoosh!… your last sentence or an entire paragraph disappears. What happened?! Maybe your cat waltzed over the keyboard or you accidentally hit Delete or the phase of the moon was wrong. It’s frustrating to literally lose your thoughts.
Never fear, CTRL + Z to the rescue! Holding those two keys down simultaneously restores what was lost.
Wouldn’t it be wonderful if someone could invent that same option for our offline lives?
You lose your keys, your cellphone, or that very important piece of paper and presto chango, CTRL+Z, you get them back.
You lose a relationship that you cherished due to a misunderstanding or distance or disagreement but CTRL+Z, it’s magically restored.
You lose your own memories due to illness or stress or the march of time but no worries. There’s CTRL +Z to recover your fading mental functions.
God cares about us, and He cares about lost things.
In the gospels, Jesus teaches his followers through parables featuring a lost sheep, a lost coin, and a lost son (Luke 15). In another passage, he reminds us that he put on flesh not to reform the culture but to redeem the world (Luke 19:10.) The whole of Scripture tells us again and again that God cares about our very lostness.
Eighteen months into the pandemic, my niece Karen lost both her beloved mother- and father-in-law to a sudden onset of illness, a tragedy shared by many around the world. At 73, they passed from this world to the next only 48 hours apart.
My heart was shattered at this tremendous loss for my niece’s family. One week their lively, vital parents and grandparents were making plans to leave to join them for Christmas. The next week, they left for eternity.
The loss is immense. Family members can never be replaced. There is no CTRL+Z for physical death.
Or is there?
When the Apostle Paul knew that his death was imminent, he wrote, “the time for my departure is close.” (2 Tim. 4:6).
The Expositor’s Bible Commentary has this to say: “The word for ‘departure’ is analysis. It comes from the verb analyo,which literally meant ‘unloose.’ The noun was used for the ‘loosing’ of a vessel from its moorings or of soldiers ‘breaking up camp’ for departure. Paul was about ready to ‘strike tent’ (leave his physical body) and forsake this earth for the presence of his Lord.”
Writing on this passage, Bible study teacher and author Beth Moore has commented:
“When our God-appointed times come and our beating hearts still, death will not mean losing. It will mean loosing. The gravity that pins our feet to this world has no hold on our souls.”
Our family has experienced great heartache this past year. You likely have as well. What we would give for those we have loved to be restored to us!
There is no CTRL +Z for such loss, but there is this: Our recognition of the Great Unloosing.
Those who have been lost to us are in His keeping.
And they are well-kept, friends.
As are we.
-Maggie Wallem Rowe
Maggie Wallem Rowe is a national speaker, dramatist, and author whose first book, This Life We Share, was a finalist for the 2021 ECPA Christian Book Award in the New Author category. Maggie has also been a TEDx presenter. Her second book, Life is Sweet, Y’all: Wit and Wisdom with A Side of Sass, released from Tyndale House Publishers in 2022. Maggie writes weekly from Peace Ridge, her home in the mountains of North Carolina. MaggieRowe.com.
The Conversation
I do love my ‘undo’ tab.
When I wish I could bring back certain loved ones, I have to stop and think if they’d really want to leave Jesus. I’m sure I wouldn’t! So, on the hard grief days, I cling to the fact I’ll see them again someday. And in the meantime, I keep going like they’d want me to. And rest when I need to (which is a recent thing I’ve learned is so completely necessary!) Grieving is exhausting. But like my therapist told me, “We have to do the hard work of grief to come out on the other side a whole person.”
Pam, thank you for reading and offering your thoughts. You have a wise therapist, and you are a wise woman indeed to know when we need someone to help us navigate the grief process. I know my loved ones would not wish to return, and yet how I wish I could at least talk with them. Someday!
Maggie, thank you for your heart and your desire to dig deep into God’s word. This is an unparalleled blessing to me at the perfect time.
Melody, your comment brings tears to my eyes as, due to a computer glitch, this post did not go through the first time I submitted it to our administrator and we almost postponed it for another time. If this was helpful to you, that was certainly the work and the timing of the Holy Spirit. Bless you, friend.